Patrick Wijdenes: ‘Quality is excluding the risk of chance’

Stottertherapie en ademtraining met de Del Ferro methode

It was a sunny Wednesday afternoon sometime in the spring of 1984. Little did I know that from that day forward, the sun would shine forever for me... A friend once asked "how did you feel during your childhood when you stuttered"? My response was "like a little bird in a cage watching other birds fly from its cage."

The bird in the cage knows that it also has the abilities to fly, just like others outside the cage, but as soon as the bird in the cage starts flying, sooner or later it will bump its head against the bars. One consequence will be that the bird will no longer choose to fly. The cage deprives the bird of the opportunity to truly be a bird.

For much of my childhood, I felt like a prisoner of my problem. Around me, I saw everyone speaking and choosing the words and phrases that came to mind at that moment. I tried that too, and often I managed to say what I wanted. But just as often I failed to do so. When I spoke I sooner or later bumped into bars and was no longer able to express myself as I wanted. And as a result, many people in my youth had a completely wrong image of me. I sometimes had to pull the oddest tricks to make it clear what I wanted to say to them. This ranged from speaking with strange grimaces, blocking completely, prolonging letters, replacing words, making a show and, in time, even deciding to say nothing at all at times.

So I often felt myself a prisoner of my problem….

A journalist asked me a while ago if I agreed with him that people who stutter achieved less in life because of stuttering. I completely contradicted this because history has made it clear that even with a stutter problem you can become, among other things, King of the United Kingdom, Prime Minister of England, famous singer or singer, famous actor or actress, lawyer and even journalist.

If the journalist had asked the question if I agreed with him that stuttering people have to put in 500,000 times more effort to achieve goals I would have answered in the affirmative.

Speech development is already a goal in life and with me it was immediately accompanied by stutters which already made it more difficult than for a child who does not have this problem. This of course continues during school hours…learning to read, speaking engagements, group activities, foreign language learnin and oral exams. Everything requires speech, and with a stuttering problem this takes more effort….

An adult then still has to deal with job applications, the job market, getting into relationships, raising children, social life, and so on. Again with everything, speech is needed and will be more difficult with a stuttering problem.

We don’t encounter many people in everyday life who stutter. One percent of the population of the Netherlands stutters. Viewed broadly, that brings us to just under 200,000 people. So out of a population of 17 million, this is very little. But this percentage of the population faces another problem besides the problem of always carrying a burden during speech.

The level of respect toward people with a stuttering problem was and still is far from it. A small sample. In 1988, actor Michael Palin mockingly portrayed his stuttering character in the film A fish called Wanda, many a cabaret performer has had laughs on the subject of stuttering, and recently the same thing happened in the Dutch film Het Verlangen.

For this reason, traditionally there has been no empathy for fellow stutterers, and a child will begin to experience jokes, jeers and copycats at an early age when it comes to his or her problem. On the contrary, if we were dealing with a society where there was still empathy then everyone should have incredible respect and regard for people who, despite their stuttering, hold the most wonderful positions and pursue and complete education. But nothing could be further from the truth.

Being a prisoner of your problem, always feeling like a minority, having more difficulty communicating goals and seeing your problem not taken seriously in society. These are frustrations a stuttering person has to deal with. Finally, the frustration becomes even greater when we consider that stutterers often spend years in a search for help for their problem and at the end of the search and after attending many therapies, are still not relieved of stuttering.

I too have searched for years for the key that would be able to open my cage but in vain. Until that sunny spring day in 1984!

The ride was on the tram 3 from Amsterdam-East, with my mother, to the Roelof Hartplein in Amsterdam-South. From the Roelof Hartplein it was a few hundred meters walk to the final destination The Apollo Avenue. Amsterdam-Zuid was a part of my city where, as a boy from East, I only came when Ajax had to play not in De Meer but in the much larger Olympic Stadium. And even then I always went with my father along Stadiumroad to our club.

One of my earliest memories of that day is that I thought The Apollo Avenue was such a wonderfully beautiful street. A completely different atmosphere than the streets in my own neighborhood. Different kind trees on either side of the street gave the street much grandeur. It impressed me a lot.

Apollo Avenue 50, the destination was reached. The Del Ferro Institute, treatment of stuttering! An address to which we were pointed by chance. My parents had heard from a boy who used to stutter that his problem was completely solved since he had taken a course with Len del Ferro. Just to be sure, my parents had asked my last speech therapist what she knew about Del Ferro. She was able to tell that this former opera singer achieved good results with people who stutter. Fortunately, she was not dismissive of Del Ferro’s technique. We could always go back to her if it didn’t work out!

My parents then obtained information from the Del Ferro Institute, and not long after, my mother and I attended a trial class so we would get an impression of the course taught by Len del Ferro.

Ms. José del Ferro welcomed us and asked us to wait and enjoy coffee for a while before the class was set to begin. Once the entire group was present and seated in the classroom, class began. We had not seen the teacher, Len del Ferro, until that point. But then…

A man entered the room whose aura and charisma immediately filled the classroom. He introduced himself and immediately began the lesson. What I remember from that hour is that Len del Ferro taught his lesson like a first class performer with a giant energy and firmly convinced of his hypothesis. And all with a Dutch/American accent which gave the class even more flavour.

The thing that really blew me off my chair was the fact that all fourteen students regularly got to speak by answering Len’s questions and had to do certain speaking exercises while NOT stuttering. I had not experienced this in six years of speech therapy. My enthusiasm was already sparked!

After class was over and I felt like I had come off a roller coaster, my mother, I, a girl who also stuttered and her mother stayed behind to get some more information from Len. The message was clear. Len would not solve my stuttering problem if I participated in the course. He was going to give me the tools that would cause a muscle in my body to keep moving in the right direction. The diaphragm! This muscle, through Len’s technique, would always make a good movement and then later this muscle would automatically move properly. As the diaphragm already does in non-stuttering people. So you solve your own stuttering problem! So you are not a patient but more like an elite athlete who needs to work incredibly hard on himself. The message was clear.

My mother looked at me afterwards and I didn’t have to say anything. I had to and would do this! I enrolled myself at the del Ferro Institute and to this day that has turned out to be one of the best decisions of my life.

Upon returning home, we ran into our neighbor who knew we were going to the Del Ferro Institute. Asked by her what we thought of it, my mother replied that it was fantastic and that you already wouldn’t take it into your head to stutter with a man like Len del Ferro.

Unfortunately, there were only weekly courses at the time. Consequently, the waiting lists were very long and open spots for new students did not open up quickly.

I turned out afterwards that we had to wait another six months….

I took the course at Del Ferro from late 1984 to 1985, about 9 months. In retrospect, I not only got rid of stuttering but learned very much about myself and about life at a young age. Material that came in very handy later in life and I still use in my daily life.

When it finally came time for me to begin the course at the Del Ferro Institute, a number of things took me by surprise. First, I found the different phases, there are five in total, very easy to understand and apply. Secondly, what is most amazing is that all five of Del Ferro’s speaking techniques guarantee speaking without stutters. There simply can be no stuttering when using the Del Ferro speaking techniques!
I must say that the latter has been precisely the reason for me to apply the Del Ferro Method in every word and sentence.
I hated the stuttering so much that when I knew I could prevent the stuttering I chose to stop doing it with the Del ferro technique.

So I think this is the most crucial thing in whether trainees are going to say every sentence with the Del Ferro Method and get rid of stuttering or not. To achieve the intended goal, a student must want to avoid every stutter with the technique beforehand. The aversion to stuttering must be so great that no stutter is accepted. Of course this comes with getting used to it and certainly in the beginning of the course with wrong decisions but Len had full understanding of that.

The overarching motivations that trainees have for not stuttering anymore but speaking with the DF technique for a short time in life are that stuttering in front of other people makes them feel bad. You always feel different from other people with something essential, which is speech. You know damn well that having stutters makes you look different from non-stutterers. Just talking about the facial grimaces that stuttering involves. And then the reactions to stuttering I mentioned earlier. I believe that a student’s aversion to stuttering is present if he or she is aware of these negative aspects of stuttering before or during the course.

This awareness, though, will ensure that the choice is no longer to stutter but to prevent it with Del Ferro’s technique.

Because again… with the technique, I did not stutter and thus was already among the 99% of society who spoke fluently. This gave me a wonderful feeling. With the technique, I looked just like the non-stuttering person while speaking. In almost all cases, this was the reason why people did not ask why I was speaking with a technique. The most amazing thing is that everyone who knew I was using the technique or whom I explained it to treated me with respect and even supported me.

For myself, I had three personal reasons, i.e. motivations, to get rid of stuttering.

First, I noticed that I was changing. I was told by my parents that I was a little boy who, the moment I could speak, was in awe of speaking to other people. It seems that I stuttered right at the beginning of my speech development. In the beginning of my life I had no problem with stuttering but the older I got the bigger my problem became. I began to stutter more and more and it began to bother me more and more because everywhere I went I was the only one who couldn’t tell a story the way I wanted to or it was accompanied by appalling stutters.

For example, I remember participating in English classes in the fourth grade of elementary school, now grade six. This was an extra class which I could take outside school hours and many from my class 4a participated in it. But students from 4b also sat in on this extra class. I had to say the English word for eleven, eleven, during class and I couldn’t do it… it took me a minute. My class was used to it from me but I will never forget the total amazement in the faces and laughter of the students of 4b.

As a result, the little boy who enjoyed speaking so much lost all fun in speaking. I started adapting my behavior to my problem by using tricks. For example, for years I ordered 7-up at the soccer club when I wanted cassis and didn’t take a frikandel sandwich with ketchup at the swimming pool but only mayonnaise because I couldn’t pronounce ketchup.
This is stuttering!!!
It’s not just not being able to pronounce letters and words. I changed my whole personality and behavior.

I wanted the real Patrick back!

The second thing that really stimulated me to speak with the DF technique was another change in my personality because of the stuttering.
As a child, you sometimes argue with other children. Often over something as small as a little game. These quarrels could then get quite out of hand. I was never hit or kicked during arguments in my childhood. The children always knew how to hit another sore and sensitive spot with me. During an argument, children would always imitate my stutter or make hurtful comments about it.

A child can respond in two ways. The final good one: walk away and ignore it. Or the lesser but the ooh so understandable one: you give the other a tremendous punch.

In my youth, I always chose the latter. The change in my personality became that I let comments about my childhood stuttering immediately follow with aggression. While later in life it turned out that I am far from being aggressive.

There was, of course, a third response but this is precisely where the problem lies. Ask the other person to stop the nasty comments and imitations. In this case it will be oil on the fire because in my case that would go with even more stutters so even more nasty comments about stuttering. Also, during an argument I was so worked up that not a word came out at all. So verbally defending myself was out of the question!

There are two moments where the powerlessness was fully expressed that I would like to recall. I am not proud of these stories but….

My much stronger neighbor boy, he was a head and a half taller than me and already had to shave, found it necessary to tease me about stuttering when I was 11 years old. I knew I wouldn’t win with fists, so I just asked my sister’s boyfriend if he had a hockey stick left over from his hockey club. As it turned out, he still had these and I got them from him assuming I was going to play with them. The rest can be guessed …

During a football match, I had to play against the little talent of our soccer club. I was a defender so I had to keep him from scoring which I did well. The boy’s frustration increased throughout the game that I prevented him from kicking a ball. So he decided the entire second half to call me a stupid stutterer. A sensible little voice told me not to react because I was apparently irritating him enough with my good efforts on the pitch and hitting definitely meant me getting send off the field. I waited until after the game….

I wanted the real Patrick back!

The third thing that was the deciding factor in my decision to go full throttle with the Del Ferro technique was the fact that for some reason the successful Del Ferro Method was not reimbursed by thehealth insurance and my six-year trajectory to speech therapy was reimbursed. Indirectly, this fact did motivate me to get rid of stuttering as quick as possible. My parents had to pay the cost of the course themselves!

My parents gave me and my sister the best upbringing children could wish for. With tremendous love and nothing was too much for them. Nevertheless, money did not grow on my parents’ backs.

My mother was a housewife and made sure everything sailed well at home, and my father had to work early every day as a plasterer. My father did that at a time, in the mid-1980s, when the construction industry was not doing well.

I was well aware of the fact that my parents had to pay Del Ferro’s course fees and that this had implications for our family’s expenses and any extras.

So I saw the whole course as a gift my parents gave to me and that this way they could not spend this money on other fun things for them or my sister.

So it was not going to be a nine-year plan but I had to get rid of the stuttering quickly.

When the Del Ferro technique was clear to me I went into it full force. Len del Ferro quickly advised me not to make it easy on myself and to look for challenges. By that he meant speaking situations that I found a little more difficult and to continue to apply technique there, of course.

So I regularly went to the busy bakery to buy bread for my parents but also for neighbors, to electronics stores to ask questions about various items, to travel agencies to ask questions about vacations in faraway places, and in my neighborhood at the market to bombard the market vendors with all kinds of questions.

Very excited, I was fully engaged in my battle against stuttering. My diaphragm had to go from an enemy to a friend. I always kept the diaphragm under control, didn’t stutter, and got a boost of self-confidence every time as a result.

As I continued to speak fluently even in difficult situations, I also psychologically nibbled away all my insecurity for letters, words, people and situations. In the shadow of fluency, as I continued to control my diaphragm, I resolved all my insecurities as well, and difficult situations eventually ceased to be challenges.

It turned into nine! Not nine years but nine months! Nine months of my life it took me to get rid of stuttering. For nine months I had to speak according to a set pattern for a while, with a speaking technique, to now speak automatically and fluently without a speaking technique. Nine months is also a pregnancy…it felt like being born again!

The result of this battle against stuttering with the Del Ferro technique is that I have Patrick back. A Patrick who enjoys speaking and so does an awful lot of it. A Patrick who engages in dialogue with people at all times when there is a disagreement or argument, and a Patrick who has made his parents apathetic about the fact that, partly because of their investment, he has freed himself of a huge problem.

It would be too big a list of positives to write down where I have benefited from my fluent speaking but it is all the regular experiences in a life that come to my mind first. Oral exams, studies, internships, job applications, social contacts, work, relationships, raising my daughter…In none of these has stuttering been an obstacle for me, and also people around me have gotten to know the real Patrick.

The fact is that time must be demanded for the Del Ferro speaking techniques. Other people always have to wait a while for the Del Ferro technique before anything can be said. But where I used to demand time from other people because I stuttered, and still could have done so now, I have demanded time for a short period of time for not stuttering with the Del Ferro Method. Now there is no need to wait for me.

There is one characteristic feature about the Del Ferro Method that I don’t want to leave unmentioned. During the time I spoke using the Del Ferro technique, people rarely asked me why I took my time before I started speaking. I later came to the conclusion that people didn’t notice because I spoke fluently and also people are very busy with their own thoughts and problems. I don’t want to say that it didn’t interest these people but to say that it generated a lot of interest from people….

There were times when people would ask why I was taking my time for a sentence, and when I would say that I was solving my stuttering problem, they would always respond with understanding and support.

So everything fell into a positive place with the Del Ferro technique!

I got the tool, a key, from Len del Ferro and with that key I opened my cage. Since 1985, I have been FREE!

Ten years passed freely. I did my studies, my military service, applied for jobs, got to know an awful lot of people and made friendships with them or not, had relationships now and then but sometimes just did nothing and watched television, for example….

When I look back in the past, there are always those moments that don’t even amount to much at the time but cause your life to take a drastic, and thankfully positive, turn.

For example, for me, in my Del Ferro story, that boy’s advice to my parents was to follow the Del Ferro Method.

Another moment became watching a television program on RTL 4 called “Eyewitness.”

This was a documentary program which in this case focused on the Del Ferro Method. I thought that would bring nothing new under the sun for me because if anyone knew all the ins and outs of the Del Ferro Method it was me.

One point at least would be different. Len del Ferro had passed away in 1992. This was national news, and I learned this sad fact on the front page of The Telegraph. So it must have been that other people were teaching at Del Ferro.

During the broadcast, it became clear to me that Ingrid del Ferro had followed in her father’s footsteps but that in addition to my weekly course, ten-day courses were being offered. This triggered me!

On television, this course already struck me as extremely professional and thorough. This in addition to the fact that there was no stuttering here either! I had a “drift down memory lane.” I had to see this with my own eyes.

It took a while before I was able to visit the Del ferro Institute. When the time finally came, I went on a day off to check out a course at the Del Ferro Institute. Upon entering, I immediately ran into Ingrid del Ferro.

Ingrid never taught me but we knew each other because she regularly kept my student card during my course time and we often talked to each other.

“Hey Pat!” was her response… “Well, I like that, that you still know me,” I responded. I write this word big with emphasis because at the time I was still a boy from a typical neighborhoud speaking with an unadulterated Amsterdam accent. And certainly still do so privately!

I said that I had seen the show Eyewitness and wanted to see how a ten-day course actually worked. Ingrid invited me to introduce myself to a group she was currently working with. I did so and before we knew it we were two hours away! I had taught for two hours, so to speak.

I had quite a bit to tell about my experiences with the Del Ferro techniques, and students found it fun and perhaps even instructive to hear this. They kept asking me questions and I knew how to give a useful answer to everything. This went rather easily for me because overall, everyone with the Del Ferro techniques is in the same boat and problems are solvable in the same way for everyone. I must honestly say that I got a different opinion on this later.

The result of this day was that I also got Ingrid excited and she asked me to consider joining her as a Del Ferro teacher.

I could see that being the case because what could be better than teaching people the Del Ferro techniques that have benefited me so much myself. Ingrid’s advantage was in that she didn’t have to teach me anything about the techniques because all the ins and outs of the Del Ferro Method were familiar to me. I just had to learn the structure of the ten-day course.

The assignment became to develop themes from my own experience with stuttering and my Del Ferro trajectory. I found this a great challenge and decided to use something I see a lot of similarities in; sports. The metaphor with sports has been present in my classes from the beginning because many experiences during the course can be compared to it in some way.

So I was actually given carte blanche by Ingrid to develop my own themes. Themes that weren’t there until then. So I also saw myself as an expert by experience.

One of the first themes I wanted to develop was to make a student aware that stuttering is unnecessary. I base that from these two facts: one can not stutter if the student is applying the Del Ferro techniques and if the techniques are not fully applied then a trainee notices it immediately because any person who has experience with stuttering should recognize that you always feel a stutter coming in advance. So the opportunity is always there to stop speaking before stuttering!

This all sounds nice but then a student has to apply the technique and this is where I noticed some friction.

Del Ferro’s Method consists of two rules. Three breathing exercises should be done in the morning and evening. This soon becomes routine in daily life for a student.

A student, especially at the beginning of the course, sometimes wants to draw the wrong conclusions from the Del Ferro techniques.

They then do not apply the technique, among other things, because the technique requires time, because the technique takes the directness and spontaneity out of speaking, and because it is a different way of speaking than the learner is used to anyway, and this creates a sense of embarrassment.

All in all, at that point the student is making other people more important than the technique that is going to solve their stuttering problem!

Here, for example, we have a point I really needed to learn from Ingrid about the ten-day course. On the first day we make a video recording of the student as the student speaks at the beginning of the course. The student then often stutters a lot!

After showing the recording we let the student give an opinion what they thought of this. The general opinion then is always that it was very confronting and many a course participant concludes that the stuttering is after all worse than they had thought in themselves and that they are ashamed of it.

I then go in with a straight leg by concluding that this video recording proves that with stuttering it is not instant and spontaneous either, that this is a different way of speaking than what normally happens, and that stuttering therefore also brings a sense of shame.

My conclusion then becomes overarching…What do you guys want?

Continue stuttering your whole life with all the negative consequences or speak with the DF technique for a short period of time, enjoy the fluent speaking it goes along with now and as a reward for all those fluent sentences get rid of the problem altogether! The choice is yours!

The Del Ferro techniques have to be explained by me to the students but a secondary function is that I am also definitely a mental coach guiding a trainee towards his or her stutter-free life.

I want my experience to make the student understand that it is wise to speak with the DF techniques for a short period of their life. I always hope to succeed in this.

Soon into the course, students come up with the question of why the Del Ferro technique must be applied with every word and sentence. It is sometimes seen as excessive and often unnecessary because at that point the student feels it can be pronounced fluently even without the DF technique.

It is then time to start explaining to the student why that is necessary, why it will make them solve stuttering and why I think Len Del Ferro should be awarded the Nobel Prize for science posthumously!

For centuries, people have wondered why a person stutters with speaking but not with singing. Nevertheless, no one has ever come up with a clear answer. Len del Ferro has succeeded with his speaking techniques in my opinion!

While singing, everyone has an innate, proper movement of the diaphragm. This goes up smoothly during singing and therefore smoothly squeezes air from the lungs against the vocal cords which begin to move harmoniously; thus there is control over the diaphragm! There is no stuttering then….

The Del Ferro techniques allow the same thing to happen while speaking. The techniques also cause the diaphragm to rise smoothly during speaking and force air from the lungs against the vocal cords smoothly; thus, there is control over the diaphragm! There is no stuttering then….

With singing, something else is going on. While singing, a person, whether with or without a stuttering problem, will not experience uncertainty for letters, words, people, situations or certain emotions. In any case, these factors do not affect fluent singing.

The Del Ferro techniques emulate this fact! The techniques guarantee that during speaking, the trainee will not experience any negative effects from letters, words, people, situations or certain emotions because they are totally eliminated or at least a trainee is not concerned with them.

So again the parallel with singing!

You can have a Feyenoord fan with a stuttering problem sing the club song on the center spot of a packed Amsterdam Arena without any problem before the Ajax-Feyenoord match starts. The student will not be thinking about the letters or words of the song, will have 50,000 angry spectators around him, will be in a precarious situation and will be, in my opinion, stiff with nerves but…will not stutter!

Of this I try to make a student aware but then the question remains as to why it should be done with every sentence and word.

Well, it’s fairly simple. If a student has a speaking technique where he or she controls the diaphragm then this student can make the diaphragm, consciously, move fluently with every sentence and word and this muscle will start to get used to this fluid movement! The diaphragm will eventually continue to make the fluent movement on its own with every sentence.

It is therefore truly super that the psychological aspect of stuttering, in the shadow of fluent speaking, resolves itself naturally. What I mean by this is that if a student always pronounces the letters and words fluently, continues to speak fluently in every situation, speaks fluently to everyone and continues to do so under every emotional state of mind his or her insecurity will be completely lost.

Comparisons are not far off. We learn to walk, bike, swim, type, play soccer and so on by giving muscles or muscle groups a set instruction each time. These muscles are getting used to it and we can do it…But we will have to push boundaries and overcome insecurities time and again on the road.

So the student must begin to see the following….

Before the course began, one student spoke with a stutter but was also fluent. Every person with a stuttering problem also often enough has sentences that are said fluently. These sentences were based on chance and luck or trickery: no diaphragm control!

During the course, a student will consistently speak fluently. This is possible if speaking is based on the Del Ferro technique: diaphragm control!

If a student speaks without the DF technique, then they are speaking without control, i.e., in the old way of speaking, and thus the diaphragm is not moved consciously, under their own will, fluidly.

The somewhat strange conclusion is actually that it is not at all important whether a sentence is pronounced fluently or not because this can also be based on chance and luck but that every sentence and word should be pronounced fluently under one’s own will. So that happens all the time with the DF techniques!

It’s a quote from former soccer coach Louis van Gaal but I secretly stole it; “quality is excluding chance.”

Beside explaining DF techniques, this is my core business. Making people see what makes sense or not, coming up with reassuring arguments, deepening stuttering and Df techniques, developing themes, discussing my own successes but certainly also my mistakes, being a listening ear, imparting my vision of life, being a trainer and especially being a guide on the road that leads to solving a mega problem.

Name me one person who has such a versatile profession.

I learned at an early age how important speech is. Many people underestimate that very aspect of being human. It is perceived as ordinary. It is so obvious. While it is the very thing that makes us human! We can communicate verbally. A bird can fly and people can speak. It is therefore my firm opinion that speech gives power and if you use it in a healthy way, history has unfortunately shown that the power of speech can also produce very negative turns, you can move mountains with it and achieve insane goals. For yourself but certainly for others.

I teach in Dutch, German and English. Surely that is insane! Surely it is incredible that the bulk of the world can understand me and still be taught by me.

I therefore consider myself very fortunate to be able to do this work. Indeed, stuttering is a mega problem. I have already written a lot about that in this account. My good fortune is that I was able to put an end to this problem at a young age. Nevertheless, there are thousands of students I have taught over the years who have not had this good fortune. Who have lived with the problem for years, into distant adulthood.

They did not pursue studies, did not enter into relationships, did not respond to open job applications, avoided contact with others for years and sought hobbies that did not require them to speak much or at all, deliberately avoided club life or parties, were unable to read to their children or share their life experiences.

Therefore, they have not seized opportunities in life, have not allowed others to enjoy their presence while being the coolest people in the world.

I have learned a tremendous amount from these people over the past few years and they have been the reason I have developed myself as a student but certainly also as a person into the teacher and person I am today. I use their experiences for my teaching but also for how I am in life. The knife cuts both ways. They learn from me and I learn from them.

During my classes, I also get to impart my own vision of life to students. Something I definitely want them to realize is the following.

Somehow I’m a lucky guy. I really feel myself a Sunday child. That, of course, has to do with the decisions I have made in my life. But that also has to do with a certain way I look at things and behave towards them.

What I radiate I get back! Be confident in the way I speak and come across and I radiate that to people and environment. It is THE way to be taken seriously.
What I radiate I get back! Be positive and always meet people with a smile and a greeting. It is THE way to make the atmosphere positive and keep it positive.
What I radiate I get back! If I respect myself then I will get respect back.

So…love myself! I live with myself all day long so be as kind to me as I will be to my wife, daughter and other people I love.

I fully believe that overcoming stuttering is one of the biggest reasons that everything in my life has taken a positive turn. I wanted the best for Patrick Wijdenes. I am taken seriously and wanted positivity around me and I gave myself that.

What you radiate you get back! What has been the reward…

Fluent speech, beautiful education, a wonderful job, a wonderfully beautiful and above all sweet wife, a brilliant and intelligent daughter and a perfect relationship with parents and sister. That’s all I need. I am happy!

Still, a small side note. I write above that I have a wonderful job. But actually I don’t think so…
My work is not a job. It is something that gives me pleasure, pride and satisfaction. Then the word job is misplaced. My work has been a mission for 23 years. A mission to teach and convince everyone who has a stuttering problem that they too can be rid of the problem!

I have a wonderful mission…

A great experience for our students. You never get used to it. Do you also want to live stutter-free?

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